Practice Radical Self-Love in 2013!

January is the month of self-love! To kick off this amazing month, I wanted to give you a refresher on Radical Self-Love. Radical Self-Love is a concept about loving and accepting yourself so deeply and completely that you create an unshakable foundation. This foundation keeps you solid on the inside so that no matter what challenges you face, you are still operating from a place of peace and inner strength. No matter how badly you’ve been treated in the past or how much you don’t like yourself now, achieving self-love is possible! I know because I went from nearly 16 years of depression and even suicidal thoughts to a place of deep self-love and acceptance. In fact, when I coach women to achieve self-love, I teach them the four cornerstones of Radical Self-Love. When you take persistent action in each of the following four areas, you will inevitably achieve Radical Self-Love. Let me just note, Radical Self-Love is a practice, not a destination. There are moments when you will feel it deeply, and other times when you won’t feel it as strongly. Nevertheless, by working on the following four cornerstones, you will continuously raise the bar on self-love. It just … Continue reading

It Takes Courage to Be YOU

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.~ ee cummings It takes great courage to be willing to be authentically YOU. Today, I invite you to take a good hard look at your life and ask, “Am I living MY dream or am I living someone else’s dream?”This question may be too scary for you to explore.  Nevertheless, I’m asking you to explore it.  Whose life are you living?  Are you living the life that your parents wanted?  Are you living based on what society tells you is appropriate?  Are you living based on what your spouse, partner, kids, friends, clients, colleagues, etc. expect?  Do you tend to overextend yourself only to feel exhausted and resentful?  Or, are you in true joy? You were not put on this Earth to live someone else’s dream.  You were put on this Earth to live YOURS.  There is a vision that was placed into your heart and it is THAT vision that is meant to be manifested.  Don’t underestimate how very important that vision is … Continue reading

You’re Worth It!

One of the most powerful realizations I had from watching the transformation in the amazing women who attended the Loving Me Always Retreat is that practicing radical self-love helps you to realize that YOU are worthy.  Not just on a surface level — but on a deep, soulful level.   All of us came into this world knowing we are loved, lovable, and loving.  Then life happens! We are affected and influenced by people who have been hurt themselves and inadvertently (and sometimes intentionally) hurt us.  The result? We start to believe that we are not good enough as we are.  We believe that we have to hide certain things about ourselves or contort who we are into something else in order to be loved and accepted.  Essentially we believe we’re not worthy.      Well, I’m here to remind you that YOU ARE WORTHY JUST AS YOU ARE!      Yes, you may have hurt people.  Yes, you’ve acted in ways that were not in your own best interest or in the best interest of others at times.  Yes, you’ve done things that you don’t feel great about.  So what?  That doesn’t mean you’re not worthy!  It just means you forgot who you … Continue reading

Do It. Resent It.

Have you ever gotten caught in a cycle of doing things . . . then, ultimately resenting it? When you find yourself consistently doing things and at some point resenting having done it, it’s a signal to you of two important things: (1) it’s time to change your inner beliefs that compels you to take action that dishonors your true desires; and (2) it’s time to reclaim your personal power.   Your saying “Yes” to something you don’t really want to do (hence, the subsequent resentment) is driven by an underlying belief that compels you to take the action in the first place.  For example, one of my clients had a hard time saying “No” to her clients’ requests to offer discounted prices.  She would agree to the discount, then feel devalued and undermined. Other examples include, saying “Yes” because you want to be nice, you want to be liked, you feel somehow obligated (e.g., to your boss, spouse, kids, or parents), or because it’s something important to you and no one else will step up.     The key to tackling the underlying belief that keeps you stuck is to get really honest with yourself.  Get quiet and ask … Continue reading

The One Affirmation That Changed My Life

As you may know, I had a difficult past. No, I didn’t grow up poor, but I did grow up feeling like I didn’t belong anywhere and that something was wrong with me. There were a slew of reasons why I had developed a disdain for myself: living in two separate worlds (an Indian world on the weekends, and an American world during school days), experiencing racism, surviving sexual molestation by an uncle and not receiving support when I told my folks, and losing my connection to family and some friends after I came out as a lesbian. I felt alone. The result: I didn’t like myself much. I didn’t value who I was. I was depressed and angry. I was self-destructive without really realizing it. After all, I could survive in society — heck, I could excel in society (hence, the prestigious legal career). I knew how to try to measure up based on other people’s expectations of me. But it was an inner turmoil that got to me. An inner feeling of emptiness and unhappiness.   For years, I would search outside of myself for happiness. Sure, material things, an exciting romance, or a great dinner out would … Continue reading

Without Clarity, You Fall Prey to Other People’s Agendas

Ever wonder why your life isn’t exactly where you want it to be?  Chances are it’s because you don’t have enough clarity about what you truly want.  Without clarity, you will fall prey to other people’s agendas. You may have a general sense of what you want.  Perhaps you know you want to make more money or have a fantastic relationship.  That’s a great start, but it’s not enough. True clarity is specific.  When you are not absolutely clear about WHAT you want, WHY you want it, and HOW to get it, it becomes much easier to get persuaded by another person who has greater clarity than you. Clarity is power.  When you are clear, you are driven by the end result.  It gives you the extra push to get you through the bumps and detours of life.  No path is without it’s pitfalls!  But, when you have clarity about exactly what you want, you can keep your eyes on the prize.  For example, during the Civil Rights Movement (the heart of which lasted 14 years!), those who were involved with the cause suffered great setbacks personally and collectively.  Yet, they had clarity — they knew that they wanted freedom and … Continue reading

The Un-Vision Board

You’ve probably heard of a vision board.  It’s a board (or a book) filled with images and words that represent the things that you want.  In essence, it’s your declaration to theUniverse of the things that you desire in your life.  (To learn more about how to create avision board, check out this vlog.) But, what do you do when the vision that you had for your life has not come to fruition (regardless of whether you put it in a vision board or book)?  Maybe you had a desire to have children, a new career, or a happy relationship, to lose weight, or make more money. You’ve desired it for so long, yet you’ve been unsuccessful so far in achieving these things. In fact, as you think about these dreams that have not yet come to pass, you typically experience negative feelings, such as anger, resentment, disappointment, hopelessness, etc. When your unmanifested dreams cause you to feel negative feelings, then it’s time to create an Un-Vision Board. Under the principles of the Law of Attraction, it’s not your desire or longing alone that will help manifest the dream.  Your desire for something sets the law in motion.  However, if you don’t operate from a place of belief and expectancy that you WILL receive it, then it’s as if you’re telling the Universe, “Hey, cancel that order!” The challenge is staying in … Continue reading

How to Live a Life by Design

If you are lucky enough to breathe for the next 365 days, then you will have lived one year of life. The choice is whether you live a life that you design or one by default. Living a life by design means that when you are consciously choosing the direction toward which you want your life to move. By contrast, living a life by default is when you just allow things to happen, without consciously directing your thoughts or efforts toward what you want. This happens when you hear yourself say things like, “Why does this always happen to me?” “I never get any breaks.” Living a life by default also occurs when you live by what other people want.  You try so hard to meet the expectations of others. When you find yourself unfulfilling their needs, you may be riddled with guilt. It’s important to note that to live a life by design you must decide on what you authentically want. What makes your heart sing? What would make you want to jump out of bed each morning? If you didn’t have to worry about money, what other people thought, social status, or anything else, what would your life … Continue reading

Business of Soul Telesummit

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Evolving Goddess Speech

[youtube] Author, Speaker, Life Coach Ann Thomas discusses her book “101 Affirmations for Radical Self-Love”. Get for more information visit following links : About Website – About Ann Thomas –